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Hi, I'm Dr.
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Catherine, a pediatrician and mama four, and welcome to Toddlers Made Easy, the No Fluff Straight to the Point podcast.
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Now, if you follow me on Instagram or get my newsletter, you've likely already heard about the hugely, enormously upsetting and life-changing event that happened a few weeks ago.
00:00:35.840 --> 00:00:42.399
If not, I'm going to share a little bit about what happened with you right now so you understand about the changes I'm making.
00:00:42.479 --> 00:00:45.840
They're exciting and fabulous in the weeks to come.
00:00:46.079 --> 00:00:51.119
So a few weeks ago, my lovely son decided to take my husband and I to NASA.
00:00:51.520 --> 00:00:58.320
He thought my husband was working way too hard, and he wanted him to relax and enjoy some quiet time on the beach.
00:00:58.479 --> 00:01:03.920
And that's exactly what we did until the weather was just a bit too cold for sitting on the beach.
00:01:04.079 --> 00:01:11.359
So my son and husband decided to go on a water slide, and that involved climbing six flight of stairs.
00:01:11.599 --> 00:01:17.760
I took their phones and wallets and went back to the hotel room as I wasn't really into the water slide.
00:01:18.000 --> 00:01:23.680
While I was there, I was hearing lots of ambulances, but I told myself, don't be such a worry ward.
00:01:23.920 --> 00:01:36.719
And then my son called me and told me what had happened, that they had gone up the slide once, so they'd climbed the sixth flight of stairs and they'd come down, but it wasn't the right water slide, so they decided to go up again.
00:01:36.879 --> 00:01:40.879
And when my husband almost reached the top, he collapsed.
00:01:41.200 --> 00:01:51.280
And it turns out that um he'd had a cardiac arrest, and my amazing son did CPR and actually had to shock him.
00:01:51.439 --> 00:01:54.719
And thank goodness there was a defibrillator nearby.
00:01:55.120 --> 00:02:01.680
And as they were on their way to the local emergency room, the ambulance driver allowed him to call me.
00:02:01.920 --> 00:02:09.360
We had some horrible, horrible experiences that you can't even imagine over the next 36 hours.
00:02:09.599 --> 00:02:12.000
I'll tell you more about this in the future.
00:02:12.240 --> 00:02:26.000
But eventually we were airlifted by this wonderful uh two medics, and we were airlifted to Toronto, where my husband remained in hospital for two weeks and had some cardiac procedures.
00:02:26.159 --> 00:02:29.919
He actually discovered he'd had a congenital cardiac abnormality.
00:02:30.080 --> 00:02:32.879
Now, really, why am I sharing this with you?
00:02:33.199 --> 00:02:36.800
This was a life-changing event for me, as you can imagine.
00:02:37.120 --> 00:02:41.199
I really almost lost my beloved husband.
00:02:41.439 --> 00:02:46.000
And it's really had me thinking a lot about what's important in life.
00:02:46.240 --> 00:02:55.039
And because of that, I'm going to be making a lot of changes, not only in my own life, but in my work life and the work I do to help parents.
00:02:55.120 --> 00:02:58.479
And I wanted you to know where this was coming from.
00:02:58.719 --> 00:03:01.120
But let's get back to today's episode.
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Getting your toddler to listen can feel like an uphill battle, leaving you stressed and overwhelmed, but with a big-hearted approach, which is even more important to me now that I've gone through this sort of soul searching.
00:03:16.400 --> 00:03:25.199
With a big-hearted approach, you can encourage cooperation without resorting to bribing and begging, or most importantly, yelling.
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Imagine this.
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You calmly ask your toddler to stop playing with his puzzle, but he ignores you.
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It's time to pick your son up from school, and you need to get going right away.
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But your toddler just keeps playing.
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You ask again and again and still nothing.
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Meanwhile, the clock is ticking away and frustration is building, and you're tempted to bribe him with a sweet treat, but your anger gets the best of you and you snap.
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Go get your shoes on right this minute.
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I call this the com snap cycle.
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Something most of us know very well.
00:04:01.520 --> 00:04:06.639
You know, like you handle things well to begin with, but then you lose it and start yelling.
00:04:06.879 --> 00:04:10.639
It's a cycle many, well, most parents recognize.
00:04:11.039 --> 00:04:15.120
Here's the really good news it's entirely possible to break the cycle.
00:04:15.280 --> 00:04:17.839
And that's one thing we're going to talk about today.
00:04:18.000 --> 00:04:21.759
But first, let's unpack why toddlers don't listen.
00:04:22.000 --> 00:04:27.920
At this stage, they're developing self-awareness and discovering their need for independence.
00:04:28.160 --> 00:04:39.439
They desperately crave control and power, and when they don't have enough chances to exert this power in healthy ways, not listening becomes one of their go-to tools.
00:04:39.680 --> 00:04:47.040
Now, by understanding this developmental need, you can handle not listening with more composure and insight.
00:04:47.279 --> 00:04:52.079
For instance, you can give your child lots of choices to help them feel more independent.
00:04:52.319 --> 00:05:06.079
This is what I call big-hearted, because when you truly understand your toddler, you can respond in a way that helps them grow without hurting their self-esteem, which is so important for such young children.
00:05:06.319 --> 00:05:16.560
So we're going to walk through three practical, science-backed strategies to help you stay composed, even when your toddler's pushing all of your buttons.
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These tips won't just help you feel calmer, they'll also strengthen your bond with your child.
00:05:22.879 --> 00:05:33.120
Now, before we dive in, I just want to take a moment to say tuning into a podcast about yelling less shows you're committed to working on habits.
00:05:33.360 --> 00:05:36.240
And that's really something to celebrate.
00:05:36.560 --> 00:05:43.680
Because let's face it, we've all had those moments when our patient runs out and we're left feeling guilty.
00:05:43.920 --> 00:05:46.879
Now, if this sounds familiar, you're not alone.
00:05:47.040 --> 00:05:49.680
It's actually just part of being human.
00:05:49.920 --> 00:05:51.920
Take Maria, for example.
00:05:52.160 --> 00:05:55.600
She's a mum to a creative three-year-old named Lily.
00:05:55.920 --> 00:06:00.399
And one morning Maria found Lily scribbling on the playroom wall.
00:06:00.639 --> 00:06:06.720
Somehow she managed to calmly redirect Lily to paper, but Lily kept ignoring her.
00:06:06.879 --> 00:06:11.199
Every time Maria turned her back, Lily would be back drawing on the wall.
00:06:11.439 --> 00:06:20.000
Maria stayed patient and repeated herself firmly but kindly, but when Lily still didn't listen, Maria lost her temper and yelled.
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Maria's reaction left her feeling awful, especially since it was just before Lily left for preschool.
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She felt so torn between guilt and frustration.
00:06:31.199 --> 00:06:38.879
Now, if this sounds at all familiar to you, let's talk about how to break this calm, calm snap cycle.
00:06:39.120 --> 00:06:41.920
The real culprit here is stress.
00:06:42.240 --> 00:06:49.279
When your child acts up, your body releases stress hormones, activating that fight or flight response.
00:06:49.519 --> 00:06:54.800
Your brain really can't tell the difference between a real emergency and toddler mischief.
00:06:55.040 --> 00:06:57.920
So your body reacts as if it's in danger.
00:06:58.160 --> 00:07:06.319
And here's the thing: no sticker chart, timer, or distraction technique will stop you from losing your cool.
00:07:06.560 --> 00:07:11.040
Because those strategies really rely on your toddler's behavior changing.
00:07:11.279 --> 00:07:19.839
But as I'm sure you already know, controlling your child or getting them to try and change is much harder than trying to change yourself.
00:07:20.160 --> 00:07:22.160
Because you control you.
00:07:22.319 --> 00:07:24.000
And that's really good news.
00:07:24.319 --> 00:07:27.839
You can change how your brain reacts to stress.
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So let's look at three steps to help you keep your cool.
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And the first one is to know your triggers.
00:07:35.040 --> 00:07:36.319
What sets you off?
00:07:36.480 --> 00:07:39.759
Is it whining, crying, or being ignored?
00:07:40.079 --> 00:07:42.800
There's a million other things that could set you off.
00:07:43.040 --> 00:07:46.639
When you know what pushes your buttons, you can plan ahead.
00:07:46.800 --> 00:07:50.240
For example, let's say it's whining that makes your blood boil.
00:07:50.399 --> 00:07:53.600
Well, address it early instead of letting it escalate.
00:07:53.759 --> 00:07:55.360
Think of it like a fire.
00:07:55.519 --> 00:07:58.000
It's easier to manage when it's small.
00:07:58.240 --> 00:08:01.920
The next step is to recognize early warning signs.
00:08:02.079 --> 00:08:15.439
Notice those physical and mental signs of stress that creep in, like your heart pounding or your heart beating faster, or your shoulders and neck getting all tense, or just those negative thoughts.
00:08:15.680 --> 00:08:17.680
My child's trying to drive me crazy.
00:08:18.000 --> 00:08:19.839
What's the matter with this child?
00:08:20.079 --> 00:08:24.959
The earlier you catch these signals, the easier it is to stay in control.
00:08:25.439 --> 00:08:30.160
Write down your personal stress signals or say them out loud to yourself.
00:08:30.480 --> 00:08:35.200
Awareness is key to learning to respond instead of react.
00:08:35.519 --> 00:08:42.559
And the last point is something I talk about over and over, and that's about taking a power pause.
00:08:42.720 --> 00:08:48.480
That's about creating a space between your child's behavior and your reaction to it.
00:08:48.720 --> 00:08:56.399
When your child's behavior triggers you, pause before responding and use that moment to reset.
00:08:56.559 --> 00:09:02.080
Now I know that's not easy, but I also know you can do really hard things.
00:09:02.320 --> 00:09:05.200
So use this space to try some deep breathing.
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Count to 10.
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Ground yourself by noticing the feel of your feet on the floor.
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Use a mantra like, I've got this, or I can handle this, or my toddler is just acting his age.
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Remember, the real battle isn't with your child, it's with your reaction to your child's behavior.
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Staying calm is much harder when you're running on empty.
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So prioritize being kind to yourself, taking care of yourself so you can refill your emotional reserves.
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Whether it's a walk or journaling or simply taking five minutes to breathe.
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Taking care of yourself isn't selfish.
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It's necessary.
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Go out with your friends, go for a walk, go to the gym, but don't put your needs on the back burner.
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Mastering your nervous system is the first step to keeping your cool.
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The next is knowing how to handle those tough toddler moments.
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I actually teach a four-step method that I call the easy method to manage tantrums with kindness and also firmness.
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And if you'd like to learn more, sign up for my free tame those tantrums masterclass.
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The link is in the show notes.
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You'll walk away with actionable strategies to bring back peace to your home.
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Now, I want you to leave today knowing this.
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You're doing an amazing job.
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Parenting is hard, and it's okay to have tough moments.
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You're going to have them, we all do.
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What matters is that you're trying and you're learning and you're growing.
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And I've got some exciting changes coming that I just can't wait to share with you.
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They come from the awareness I gained through going through this crazy and horrible experience with my husband that had wonderful outcomes.
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I should say, my husband is doing really well.
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In fact, he's got more stamina and energy than I do, and it's only been a few weeks since his surgery.
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So I want to thank you all.
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I've had so many messages of kindness and caring and support around this difficult moment in my life.
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But I'd also like to thank you for spending time with me today.
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It means more to me than you'd know.
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Keep believing in yourself because you're stronger than you think.
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Till next week, I'll see you then.
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Hi, I'm Dr.
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Catherine, a pediatrician and mama four, and welcome to Toddlers Made Easy, the No Fluff Straight to the Point podcast.
00:00:22.079 --> 00:00:35.600
Now, if you follow me on Instagram or get my newsletter, you've likely already heard about the hugely, enormously upsetting and life-changing event that happened a few weeks ago.
00:00:35.840 --> 00:00:42.399
If not, I'm going to share a little bit about what happened with you right now so you understand about the changes I'm making.
00:00:42.479 --> 00:00:45.840
They're exciting and fabulous in the weeks to come.
00:00:46.079 --> 00:00:51.119
So a few weeks ago, my lovely son decided to take my husband and I to NASA.
00:00:51.520 --> 00:00:58.320
He thought my husband was working way too hard, and he wanted him to relax and enjoy some quiet time on the beach.
00:00:58.479 --> 00:01:03.920
And that's exactly what we did until the weather was just a bit too cold for sitting on the beach.
00:01:04.079 --> 00:01:11.359
So my son and husband decided to go on a water slide, and that involved climbing six flight of stairs.
00:01:11.599 --> 00:01:17.760
I took their phones and wallets and went back to the hotel room as I wasn't really into the water slide.
00:01:18.000 --> 00:01:23.680
While I was there, I was hearing lots of ambulances, but I told myself, don't be such a worry ward.
00:01:23.920 --> 00:01:36.719
And then my son called me and told me what had happened, that they had gone up the slide once, so they'd climbed the sixth flight of stairs and they'd come down, but it wasn't the right water slide, so they decided to go up again.
00:01:36.879 --> 00:01:40.879
And when my husband almost reached the top, he collapsed.
00:01:41.200 --> 00:01:51.280
And it turns out that um he'd had a cardiac arrest, and my amazing son did CPR and actually had to shock him.
00:01:51.439 --> 00:01:54.719
And thank goodness there was a defibrillator nearby.
00:01:55.120 --> 00:02:01.680
And as they were on their way to the local emergency room, the ambulance driver allowed him to call me.
00:02:01.920 --> 00:02:09.360
We had some horrible, horrible experiences that you can't even imagine over the next 36 hours.
00:02:09.599 --> 00:02:12.000
I'll tell you more about this in the future.
00:02:12.240 --> 00:02:26.000
But eventually we were airlifted by this wonderful uh two medics, and we were airlifted to Toronto, where my husband remained in hospital for two weeks and had some cardiac procedures.
00:02:26.159 --> 00:02:29.919
He actually discovered he'd had a congenital cardiac abnormality.
00:02:30.080 --> 00:02:32.879
Now, really, why am I sharing this with you?
00:02:33.199 --> 00:02:36.800
This was a life-changing event for me, as you can imagine.
00:02:37.120 --> 00:02:41.199
I really almost lost my beloved husband.
00:02:41.439 --> 00:02:46.000
And it's really had me thinking a lot about what's important in life.
00:02:46.240 --> 00:02:55.039
And because of that, I'm going to be making a lot of changes, not only in my own life, but in my work life and the work I do to help parents.
00:02:55.120 --> 00:02:58.479
And I wanted you to know where this was coming from.
00:02:58.719 --> 00:03:01.120
But let's get back to today's episode.
00:03:01.360 --> 00:03:16.159
Getting your toddler to listen can feel like an uphill battle, leaving you stressed and overwhelmed, but with a big-hearted approach, which is even more important to me now that I've gone through this sort of soul searching.
00:03:16.400 --> 00:03:25.199
With a big-hearted approach, you can encourage cooperation without resorting to bribing and begging, or most importantly, yelling.
00:03:25.520 --> 00:03:26.479
Imagine this.
00:03:26.719 --> 00:03:31.120
You calmly ask your toddler to stop playing with his puzzle, but he ignores you.
00:03:31.360 --> 00:03:35.759
It's time to pick your son up from school, and you need to get going right away.
00:03:36.000 --> 00:03:37.919
But your toddler just keeps playing.
00:03:38.159 --> 00:03:41.199
You ask again and again and still nothing.
00:03:41.439 --> 00:03:51.599
Meanwhile, the clock is ticking away and frustration is building, and you're tempted to bribe him with a sweet treat, but your anger gets the best of you and you snap.
00:03:51.919 --> 00:03:55.439
Go get your shoes on right this minute.
00:03:55.919 --> 00:03:59.120
I call this the com snap cycle.
00:03:59.360 --> 00:04:01.360
Something most of us know very well.
00:04:01.520 --> 00:04:06.639
You know, like you handle things well to begin with, but then you lose it and start yelling.
00:04:06.879 --> 00:04:10.639
It's a cycle many, well, most parents recognize.
00:04:11.039 --> 00:04:15.120
Here's the really good news it's entirely possible to break the cycle.
00:04:15.280 --> 00:04:17.839
And that's one thing we're going to talk about today.
00:04:18.000 --> 00:04:21.759
But first, let's unpack why toddlers don't listen.
00:04:22.000 --> 00:04:27.920
At this stage, they're developing self-awareness and discovering their need for independence.
00:04:28.160 --> 00:04:39.439
They desperately crave control and power, and when they don't have enough chances to exert this power in healthy ways, not listening becomes one of their go-to tools.
00:04:39.680 --> 00:04:47.040
Now, by understanding this developmental need, you can handle not listening with more composure and insight.
00:04:47.279 --> 00:04:52.079
For instance, you can give your child lots of choices to help them feel more independent.
00:04:52.319 --> 00:05:06.079
This is what I call big-hearted, because when you truly understand your toddler, you can respond in a way that helps them grow without hurting their self-esteem, which is so important for such young children.
00:05:06.319 --> 00:05:16.560
So we're going to walk through three practical, science-backed strategies to help you stay composed, even when your toddler's pushing all of your buttons.
00:05:16.800 --> 00:05:22.639
These tips won't just help you feel calmer, they'll also strengthen your bond with your child.
00:05:22.879 --> 00:05:33.120
Now, before we dive in, I just want to take a moment to say tuning into a podcast about yelling less shows you're committed to working on habits.
00:05:33.360 --> 00:05:36.240
And that's really something to celebrate.
00:05:36.560 --> 00:05:43.680
Because let's face it, we've all had those moments when our patient runs out and we're left feeling guilty.
00:05:43.920 --> 00:05:46.879
Now, if this sounds familiar, you're not alone.
00:05:47.040 --> 00:05:49.680
It's actually just part of being human.
00:05:49.920 --> 00:05:51.920
Take Maria, for example.
00:05:52.160 --> 00:05:55.600
She's a mum to a creative three-year-old named Lily.
00:05:55.920 --> 00:06:00.399
And one morning Maria found Lily scribbling on the playroom wall.
00:06:00.639 --> 00:06:06.720
Somehow she managed to calmly redirect Lily to paper, but Lily kept ignoring her.
00:06:06.879 --> 00:06:11.199
Every time Maria turned her back, Lily would be back drawing on the wall.
00:06:11.439 --> 00:06:20.000
Maria stayed patient and repeated herself firmly but kindly, but when Lily still didn't listen, Maria lost her temper and yelled.
00:06:20.319 --> 00:06:27.040
Maria's reaction left her feeling awful, especially since it was just before Lily left for preschool.
00:06:27.199 --> 00:06:30.959
She felt so torn between guilt and frustration.
00:06:31.199 --> 00:06:38.879
Now, if this sounds at all familiar to you, let's talk about how to break this calm, calm snap cycle.
00:06:39.120 --> 00:06:41.920
The real culprit here is stress.
00:06:42.240 --> 00:06:49.279
When your child acts up, your body releases stress hormones, activating that fight or flight response.
00:06:49.519 --> 00:06:54.800
Your brain really can't tell the difference between a real emergency and toddler mischief.
00:06:55.040 --> 00:06:57.920
So your body reacts as if it's in danger.
00:06:58.160 --> 00:07:06.319
And here's the thing: no sticker chart, timer, or distraction technique will stop you from losing your cool.
00:07:06.560 --> 00:07:11.040
Because those strategies really rely on your toddler's behavior changing.
00:07:11.279 --> 00:07:19.839
But as I'm sure you already know, controlling your child or getting them to try and change is much harder than trying to change yourself.
00:07:20.160 --> 00:07:22.160
Because you control you.
00:07:22.319 --> 00:07:24.000
And that's really good news.
00:07:24.319 --> 00:07:27.839
You can change how your brain reacts to stress.
00:07:28.079 --> 00:07:32.000
So let's look at three steps to help you keep your cool.
00:07:32.160 --> 00:07:34.879
And the first one is to know your triggers.
00:07:35.040 --> 00:07:36.319
What sets you off?
00:07:36.480 --> 00:07:39.759
Is it whining, crying, or being ignored?
00:07:40.079 --> 00:07:42.800
There's a million other things that could set you off.
00:07:43.040 --> 00:07:46.639
When you know what pushes your buttons, you can plan ahead.
00:07:46.800 --> 00:07:50.240
For example, let's say it's whining that makes your blood boil.
00:07:50.399 --> 00:07:53.600
Well, address it early instead of letting it escalate.
00:07:53.759 --> 00:07:55.360
Think of it like a fire.
00:07:55.519 --> 00:07:58.000
It's easier to manage when it's small.
00:07:58.240 --> 00:08:01.920
The next step is to recognize early warning signs.
00:08:02.079 --> 00:08:15.439
Notice those physical and mental signs of stress that creep in, like your heart pounding or your heart beating faster, or your shoulders and neck getting all tense, or just those negative thoughts.
00:08:15.680 --> 00:08:17.680
My child's trying to drive me crazy.
00:08:18.000 --> 00:08:19.839
What's the matter with this child?
00:08:20.079 --> 00:08:24.959
The earlier you catch these signals, the easier it is to stay in control.
00:08:25.439 --> 00:08:30.160
Write down your personal stress signals or say them out loud to yourself.
00:08:30.480 --> 00:08:35.200
Awareness is key to learning to respond instead of react.
00:08:35.519 --> 00:08:42.559
And the last point is something I talk about over and over, and that's about taking a power pause.
00:08:42.720 --> 00:08:48.480
That's about creating a space between your child's behavior and your reaction to it.
00:08:48.720 --> 00:08:56.399
When your child's behavior triggers you, pause before responding and use that moment to reset.
00:08:56.559 --> 00:09:02.080
Now I know that's not easy, but I also know you can do really hard things.
00:09:02.320 --> 00:09:05.200
So use this space to try some deep breathing.
00:09:05.360 --> 00:09:06.320
Count to 10.
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Ground yourself by noticing the feel of your feet on the floor.
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Use a mantra like, I've got this, or I can handle this, or my toddler is just acting his age.
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Remember, the real battle isn't with your child, it's with your reaction to your child's behavior.
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Staying calm is much harder when you're running on empty.
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So prioritize being kind to yourself, taking care of yourself so you can refill your emotional reserves.
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Whether it's a walk or journaling or simply taking five minutes to breathe.
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Taking care of yourself isn't selfish.
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It's necessary.
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Go out with your friends, go for a walk, go to the gym, but don't put your needs on the back burner.
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Mastering your nervous system is the first step to keeping your cool.
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The next is knowing how to handle those tough toddler moments.
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I actually teach a four-step method that I call the easy method to manage tantrums with kindness and also firmness.
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And if you'd like to learn more, sign up for my free tame those tantrums masterclass.
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The link is in the show notes.
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You'll walk away with actionable strategies to bring back peace to your home.
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Now, I want you to leave today knowing this.
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You're doing an amazing job.
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Parenting is hard, and it's okay to have tough moments.
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You're going to have them, we all do.
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What matters is that you're trying and you're learning and you're growing.
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And I've got some exciting changes coming that I just can't wait to share with you.
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They come from the awareness I gained through going through this crazy and horrible experience with my husband that had wonderful outcomes.
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I should say, my husband is doing really well.
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In fact, he's got more stamina and energy than I do, and it's only been a few weeks since his surgery.
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So I want to thank you all.
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I've had so many messages of kindness and caring and support around this difficult moment in my life.
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But I'd also like to thank you for spending time with me today.
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It means more to me than you'd know.
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Keep believing in yourself because you're stronger than you think.
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Till next week, I'll see you then.
